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Fear is a Pre-Requisite to Growth and Transformation

Updated: Nov 16, 2022

When you don’t know how to do something, or you are confronted with some past hurt, you start to question your abilities and the subconscious part of your brain starts to bring all your limiting beliefs up to the surface. What transpires is fear!

Your brain doesn’t like change. It wants to keep you safe; to keep the status quo. Don’t go do that unknown thing. It’s too scary. Let’s stay here in our comfort zone. Let’s pretend it doesn’t exist. Put back that wound into the recesses of our memory we don’t want to remember or feel.

What happens when you stay in your comfort zone? You don’t grow and you don’t realize the things you are truly capable of achieving. You stay stagnant and stuck. As humans we are meant to always shift, adapt, and change. It’s a part of living your life with no regrets.

I know change can be scary. I’m currently being confronted by this exact thing. Like many of my clients and friends, I am being called to heal the things that keep me stuck from releasing past traumas and limiting beliefs.

I have no choice in the matter. I am being triggered and my body is feeling it so intently that if I don’t work on it, I’m a mess. I feel raw, vulnerable, scared, unsure, and fearful. I’ve never been one to experience anxiety or panic. However, my body is feeling heightened sensations of nervous energy, my heart hurts, and I feel heavy all over.

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Maybe you have experienced similar emotions and sensations when you have been confronted with change or the unknown. In order to transform yourself and level up to a new way of thinking, feeling, and acting, your only choice is through the fear.

So how does one do that? Feel it. Feel the uncomfortableness of all the emotions and sensations. Journal out what you are going through; what your fears are. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen if I do this thing or confront this person or a trigger?” Then ask yourself, “If that worst case scenario did happen, what then? This allows your brain to problem-solve and give you some solutions. It also helps you think rationally that you will be okay on the other side. Staying stuck in catastrophizing and worst case scenario thinking is not supportive.

For example, let’s say I’m going to ask a guy I like out for some coffee. The worst case scenario would be he says no in an unkind critical way. What would I do if that happened? I would likely feel sad or hurt, and maybe feel the sting of rejection. Then what would I do? I would likely talk to a friend about it in order to process my thoughts and emotions. Then I would get over it and try again with another person I’m interested in.

If you were going to jump out of an airplane, you would feel the fear leading up to the day, as you ascended in the airplane, as you stood on the edge of jumping out of the open door, and maybe until you pull the rip cord. Once the rip cord has been pulled, the fear is gone. What you are left with is exhalation, peace, ease, joy, and a sense of accomplishment.

Feel all the feels, problem-solve the worst case scenario, and then plunge forward into the fear! You’ve got this!

Find out more about feeling uncomfortable emotions and connecting with your body in the multi-award-winning book Embodied: How to Connect to Your Body, Ignite Your Intuition, and Harness Universal Energy for Healing.

With Blessings,

Vicky xo

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